Imposter syndrome is the feeling you may get when you start a new job, get a promotion or start your own business. It is that feeling that you are not good enough, that someone will find you out, that you are not qualified enough or that you feel you are a fraud.
Here are my 7 ways to manage this.
1. Recognising the feeling of imposter syndrome is the first step. Make a list of your strengths. If you can’t think of any at first think of a time that you felt good. Pull together your testimonials from a boss or client. If you are just starting out think about the last time you received a compliment for your work. Keep them visible so when you get this feeling you can read them.
2. Become aware of what you are telling yourself. These are the stories we create in our heads unconsciously. For example if you think you are not good enough, ask yourself if this is true. Flip the sentence from ‘I am not good enough’ to ‘I AM good enough’ and repeat this everyday. Everyone has these thoughts and you are not alone but you deserve to feel good enough. Give yourself permission to feel good enough.
3. Accepting feedback
If you suffer with imposter syndrome it is more than likely you find accepting feedback difficult. Think about feedback as the result, action or outcome not you. If you get negative feedback, dissect it, think about what you could do better and move on to the positives.
4. Do not worry about what people think. Comparisonitis is poisonous. Everyone is on a different journey and at different stages. The person who makes a 7 figure income is at a completely different place to you and has had a different journey. You are worrying about what people think when in reality everyone is wondering what other people think. Don’t waste energy on this.
5. Remember no-one is perfect. When you dwell on the negative it has a huge impact on your confidence. It is through mistakes that you learn and if you don’t move forward you will never learn. Think of all the things you have achieved, however small. Write down all the things you are grateful for every morning. 10 minutes a day can work wonders. Do this for 21 days or more so that it becomes a habit.
6. Visualise confidence
What you think you become. So picture yourself on a stage where you get a standing ovation or the feeling you get when a client gets a great outcome. Flip the negative thoughts to positive ones and visualise an amazing outcome. It will become your reality.
7. Put self-doubt on the back burner. The next time you hear doubt creep in, recognise it and ask yourself whether it is true or false, challenge yourself, reframe it and replace it with a positive thought.
A final word on imposter syndrome, we all feel it from time to time. It is part of the human condition. Recognise it and reframe it.